When He Spins the Block: Sir, Leave Me Alone

Hey Sis, Let’s get one thing straight—I am not the one. Not today, not yesterday, and definitely not tomorrow. So when these men (or people in general) think they can spin the block and try me again after showing me who they really are, I’m left wondering: What exactly do I look like to you?

Because it’s giving delusional.

We’ve Been Here Before

Let me paint the picture for you. He messed up—bad. We’re talking about crossing lines, testing my patience, and absolutely failing to show up when I needed him most.

And yet, here he comes, months later, acting like we didn’t already have that conversation. You know, the one where I made it clear I’m done? It’s the audacity for me.

The last time we spoke, he didn’t just show his true colors—he painted the whole damn mural. The dismissiveness, the gaslighting, the "Maybe you’re just overreacting" energy? Yeah, that’s a no from me.

Why Do They Always Come Back?

Sis, I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s because they think we’re the safe space they can always return to. Or maybe it’s their ego, thinking we’re still sitting around waiting.

Spoiler alert: we’re not.

What they don’t realize is that the version of us they think they’re coming back to? She doesn’t exist anymore. I’ve grown. I’ve healed. I’ve leveled up. And honestly, I’m not interested in entertaining people who had their chance and blew it.

Protecting My Peace

Here’s the thing—I’ve worked too hard to find my peace. The kind of peace that comes from learning to love myself, setting boundaries, and refusing to settle for anything less than respect and accountability.

So when he (or anyone) comes back, thinking I’m going to entertain the same nonsense I walked away from, my response is simple: No, thank you.

I’m not angry. I’m not bitter. I’m just... good. I don’t need closure, explanations, or apologies. I’ve already made peace with the situation—and with myself.

The Glow-Up Is Real

You know what’s funny? They always seem to come back when you’re glowing. When you’ve found your stride, your purpose, your joy. It’s almost like they can sense the happiness they once dimmed shining bright again.

But Sis, let me tell you something: don’t let them disrupt your glow. You’ve worked too hard to get here. Don’t let their return trip shake what you’ve built.

Writing Exercise: Declaring Your Worth

Grab your journal and write this out:

1. What have you learned about yourself since walking away from someone who hurt you?
2. What are three things you will no longer tolerate in relationships, friendships, or life in general?
3. Write a letter to your future self, reminding her of the strength it took to let go and the joy she’s found since.

My Message To You

Sis, we don’t spin the block over here. We don’t entertain what no longer serves us. We don’t dim our light to make others comfortable.

Let him wonder why you’re not answering. Let him replay that last conversation in his head. Let him see you thriving and know he fumbled.

Because here’s the truth: when you choose yourself, you win. When you protect your peace, you glow. And when you refuse to go backward, you open yourself up to everything forward has to offer.

So the next time someone tries to spin the block, just smile and keep moving. You’ve already passed that test, Sis. No need to take it again.

With love, light, and a whole lot of boundaries,

E 💜