The Narcissist Chronicles: Why His Messages Will Stay Unread
You ever have someone do you so dirty, cross so many lines, and then have the unmitigated gall to pop back up like they’re the victim? That’s Pierre for me. My former BFF.
This man has to be a certified narcissist. I can’t think of any other explanation. He showed his whole behind, dismissed my pain, and even tried to gaslight me about my own life. And now, he wants to reach out? Sir, be for real.
What Exactly Do They Be Thinking?
Here’s what blows me, Sis: the lack of self-awareness. Narcissists have this uncanny ability to rewrite history in their minds. They’ll betray you, belittle you, and then convince themselves that you’re the problem. And then they have the nerve to pop back up like nothing happened.
Pierre didn’t just hurt me—he humiliated himself. The way he dismissed my experience, mocked my trauma, and stood ten toes down in his nonsense was enough to show me who he really is. But instead of reflecting, apologizing, or, I don’t know, leaving me alone, he decides to spin the block.
For what?
The Audacity Is Their Superpower
If there’s one thing narcissists have in abundance, it’s audacity. They’ll treat you like dirt and then wonder why you’re not rolling out the red carpet for their return.
Pierre knows what he did. He knows how he made me feel. But narcissists aren’t built to take accountability. To them, it’s easier to paint you as angry, bitter, or ungrateful than to admit they were wrong.
Sis, let me tell you something—there’s freedom in recognizing the pattern. Once you see the narcissist for who they are, it’s like the spell breaks. You stop expecting growth, closure, or accountability because you realize they don’t have it to give.
Why Reach Out Now?
That’s the million-dollar question, isn’t it? Why now? Why reach out after all this time?
The answer is simple: narcissists hate losing control. They can’t stand the idea that you’ve moved on, healed, or found peace without them. They’ll reach out not because they care, but because they want to reinsert themselves into your life and remind you of their presence.
But Sis, let me be clear: their return isn’t about you. It’s about them. It’s about their need to feel important, to keep you in their orbit, to validate their own ego.
What I Know Now
Here’s what I’ve learned: responding to a narcissist is like feeding a stray cat—they’ll keep coming back. The best thing you can do is ignore them. Silence speaks louder than any response ever could.
Pierre’s messages? Still unread. His calls? Unanswered. Not because I’m angry, but because I’m at peace. I don’t need his validation, his apology, or his explanations.
What I need is my peace, my sanity, and my boundaries. And Sis, those are non-negotiable.
Writing Exercise: Recognizing the Patterns
Take some time to journal about the people in your life who’ve shown narcissistic tendencies. Write down:
- The ways they’ve dismissed your feelings or experiences.
- The patterns you’ve noticed in their behavior.
- How you can protect yourself from their influence moving forward.
My Message to You
Sis, dealing with a narcissist is draining. They’ll twist the truth, manipulate your emotions, and leave you questioning your own reality. But here’s what you need to know: you don’t owe them anything. Not your time, not your energy, and definitely not your forgiveness.
Pierre’s messages will stay unread because I’ve already read the situation loud and clear. He’s not coming back into my life, and neither is the chaos he brings.
So when that narcissist in your life tries to pop back up, remember this: you don’t have to open the door just because they knock. Protect your peace, stand firm in your boundaries, and keep moving forward.
Because Sis, you deserve better. You’ve always deserved better.
With love and light,
E 💜
