It Ain't You, It's Me: Why Saying Goodbye Can Be the Ultimate Act of Love
It Ain't You, It's Me: Why Saying Goodbye Can Be the Ultimate Act of Love
Hey Sis, you good? We all been here before. In a relationship, looking fly and feeling good...but something just ain't it. Conversations between you and your guy is dry and your constantly feeling unheard and/or unsupported. Girl, that voice in your head whisperin' "it's not him, it's me" deserves to be heard. Let's unpack what that truly means and why stepping away might be the best move for both of y'all.
Know Your Worth, Queen!
Hey sis, listen up! You're stunning, brilliant, and capable of anything you set your mind to. Don't ever let any man, anyone or anything dim your light. If a relationship, of any kind makes you feel constantly drained or just not good enough, it's a red flag. It might not be a big blow-up, but that quiet, nagging feeling is chipping away at your happiness. You deserve so much more!
Dig Deeper: What "It's Not You, It's Me" Really Means
"It's not you, it's me", is not a flew and can be true for many reasons. Sometimes it's simply about growing in different directions. Maybe your partner's chasing dreams that don't quite fit yours, or maybe you're realizing you need to chase your own goals with someone who's your biggest supporter.
It can also be about deeper things. Maybe you two just don't communicate as well as you'd like, your values clash a bit, or ya'll got different long-term visions. These aren't necessarily dealbreakers, but they can cause constant tension if not talked about openly and honestly. Both of you need to be on the same page about what you want from the relationship.
Why Leaving Can Be the Ultimate Act of Love
Look, staying in a relationship that ain't working for either of you just hurts everyone in the long run. It's like wearing shoes a size too small - cute in theory, but ultimately painful and impractical.
Leaving the relationship creates space for both of you to grow and find what you truly need. Your ex can pursue their dreams, and you're free to attract a partner who complements you and celebrates your wins. It's a powerful act of self-love, and when you love yourself completely, you attract that same kind of love in return.
Breakin' Up Ain't Easy, But It Can Be Empowering
Yes sis, breakups sting. There will be waves of sadness, missing the good times, and maybe even a tear or ten. But here's the thing Queen: you're doing this for you. This clears the path for the kind of love you deserve, a love that's healthy, supportive, and celebrates every awesome thing about you. Lean on your amazing support system, treat yourself to something that makes you feel fantastic (think a nice relaxing spa day or a night full of fun with your girls), and never forget: you are a powerhouse of strength, capability, and worthy of a love story that'll knock your socks off.
Conclusion
Breakups are tough, sis, no question about it. It might feel painful right now, but trust that this is like shedding an old skin – it makes way for something incredible. You're like a superhero, stronger than you know. This is your chance to rediscover yourself, the amazing you! Dive into your passions, reconnect with your friends, and remember those dreams you might have put on hold. You deserve a love that feels like coming home, a partner who cheers you on and celebrates your fire.
So, when that voice whispers "it's not you, it's me," listen loud and clear. It's time to spread your wings and soar, sis. The perfect love story is out there waiting for you to write it.
For another great read, check out my poem, "What I Needed From a Man" , (located on my poems page) to see what insight I came to on my healing journey and gain prospective on what it is you may need from a man moving forward.
